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Is it okay to flirt with a colleague if you are married or in a steady relationship? The answer to this question lies in how you define flirtation. If indulging in friendly banter and jovial conversations without a serious sexual overtone is flirtation, it would be considered harmless. A playful giggle here, some gentle ribbing there, a quick chat by the watercooler are all safe, as long as both colleagues know their limits.

Why do it? 
For fun, of course. Friendly flirting, in some sense, is like socialising. It helps lighten a tedious work environment and makes boring work tolerable. It also gives an ego boost — the feeling of acknowledgement and appreciation is priceless.

Does flirting at work equal infidelity?
“Flirting with mutual consent and within social boundaries is not a crime,” says Dr Samir Parikh, director, mental health and behavioural science, Fortis Healthcare. When both parties are aware of each other’s standings and marital commitments, and they agree that it is innocent, it is okay. So, if a married male colleague pays you a compliment about a rocking new pair of shoes, or if you admire his tie, it’s not infidelity. Indulging in witty conversation or cracking a silly joke shouldn’t translate into being inappropriate. In fact, it’s wrong to judge a colleague on this basis. “Some people are more outgoing by nature, that doesn’t mean they are out of line,” says Dr Parikh.

Where to draw the line?
Right where it gets controversial.  The line is, of course, imaginary; there is no limit stated in the great books. It’s something you morally enforce upon yourself and swear never to cross. You have to rely on your conscience and ask yourself how much liberty would you allow your partner if they were in the same situation. Dr Parikh helps us identify the point at which we may breach our limits. “The moment you feel the need to be discreet, you should know there is something wrong,” he says. If you go home and can’t talk openly to your spouse about your interactions with colleagues, it’s time to think things through. Secrecy is never good, it leads to suspicion and hence complications.

So, there ought to be certain boundaries, clearly demarking a ‘this much and no further’ point. “It’s important to draw a line, define it and highlight it, so that there are no chances of confusion,” says Dr Rajan Bhonsle, counsellor and consultant in sexual medicine. Often, unintended signals play with one’s psyche and turn a sweet relationship sour. And keeping the office environment in mind, the last thing you’d want is an unflattering reputation.

What’s beyond socialising?
Discomfort. So, before you reach this state, re-evaluate the dynamics of your working relationship, take corrective steps backwards and do not encourage faulty perceptions.

Original Source How to Keep Flirting At Work Harmless

Las Vegas (AFP) - Marcos Maidana didn't get the victory he had hoped for over Floyd Mayweather, but he did establish a blueprint for future challengers to try and upset boxing's pound-for-pound champ.

"Floyd looks beatable," said British boxer star Amir Khan, who is hoping that his impressive showing on the Mayweather-Maidana undercard lands him a fight with Mayweather in the fall.The Argentine boxer gave Mayweather all he could handle late Saturday at the MGM Hotel, turning their world title fight into a street brawl and causing some to wonder if Mayweather is more vulnerable to defeat than any other time in his 18-year professional career.

"He is getting older and showing a lot of mistakes that he didn't used to do. It is a great time to catch him."

Maidana, who came into the fight a 11-1 underdog, lost the majority decision but he won the respect of Mayweather. He did it by swarming the American every chance he could.

- Mayweather undefeated -

The 37-year-old Mayweather remained undefeated in 46 pro fights by outpointing Maidana to unify the welterweight division.

Mayweather retained his World Boxing Council crown and took the World Boxing Association belt away from the 30-year-old Maidana.

Maidana's game plan was to show Mayweather no respect, keep him off balance and do whatever he could to win even if that meant breaking the rules at bit.

Maidana landed 221 punches out of a total of 858 he threw. He landed more punches than any of the 38 previous Mayweather opponents tracked by Compubox.

Miguel Cotto also threw a lot of punches in his 2012 fight, but his mistake was trying to outbox the clever Mayweather instead of smothering him with rights and lefts.

Maidana's trainer Robert Garcia said during the build up to the fight they would model their game plan after the way Victor Ortiz fought Mayweather in September 2011.

Ortiz was hitting a visibly frustrated Mayweather with some solid punches before he dropped his guard to say something to the referee.

Mayweather seized that moment to hit Ortiz when he wasn't looking, knocking him out in the fourth round.

Mayweather tried the same move against Maidana in the eighth round Saturday as the Argentinian was trying to get the attention of the referee Tony Weeks. But Maidana had done his homework, so was ready for it and dodged the punch.

- 'I won this fight' -

"Floyd did not fight like the man I expected him to," Maidana said. "I definitely think I won this fight."

Asked in the ring immediately after the fight if he would give Maidana (35-4, 31 KOs) a rematch Mayweather replied, "Let's do it again." Then during the post-fight news conference, Mayweather shook the hand of Garcia on the podium and reiterated there would be a rematch.

But judging by his comments in the build up to the fight, Mayweather's word might not be worth much.

One moment he was talking about this being his last fight and the next day he would be discussing fighting more so he could cement his legacy.

Once the fight was over -- and there were no more pay-per-view tickets to sell -- he dismissed any talk of retirement.

One also has to wonder if all the distractions in Mayweather's personal life didn't have an affect on his preparation for this fight.

Mayweather, who earned $32 million for Saturday's fight, is at the halfway stage of his six-fight contract with Showtime sports channel. If he keeps on winning and finishes the contract he would be 49-0, the same record as the legendary Rocky Marciano.

Source:http://news.yahoo.com/maidana-may-blueprint-beat-mayweather-052720519--box.html